What Adults Can Learn from the Process of Baby Steps
Taking a Self-Care Break
I’m popping in to apologize for my unexpected disappearance lately. I’ve been dealing with some health issues. Thankfully, it’s nothing too serious, but it’s caused some pretty major fatigue that’s forced me to pull back on a lot of things. I’ve been wanting to write an update here for a while, but even something as seemingly simple as this quick post has felt like too much. All my energy has been going towards self-care, the basic necessities of life, and work for pre-existing clients; there’s rarely much else (if anything) left to offer anyone after that.
Resting and self-care have always been priorities for me, but now it’s on a totally different level. And even though I’m still in the thick of the getting-well process, I’m learning a lot and noticing some fascinating things as I let my body dictate my life. I’m also noticing what happens when I resist it or try to force my way through something even though I’m really too tired for it. I’m hoping to be able to explain more once my brain is fully functioning again.
I’ve got a new doctor I like, and she’s trying some new things that I think are finally starting to make a difference. I have no doubt that once I feel fully well again, I’ll come out stronger than before; I’m sure all I’m learning during this process will work its way to you one way or the other. And although the time table may be beyond my control, I’m feeling hopeful that the start of the new year will bring a fresh start to both my health and my coaching.
Please know I’m still thinking about you all (and, when I can, I'm playing with some fun offerings for you for when I’m ready to jump back in). I wish you the best both for the holidays and on your overall road to joy, and I’m looking forward to catching up with you on the flip side!
The Curly Girl Haircut as a Metaphor for Change
You know how Ben Franklin taught us nothing's certain but death and taxes?
Well he forgot something: change.
Change can be a hard process sometimes, even when it's something good and something we initiate ourselves.
I recently realized my curly girl haircut was the perfect metaphor for the process that so often happens when dealing with change.
Can you relate?
You know you’re ready for a change.
Maybe you want to try something drastic.
Maybe you just want some minor fixes so you'll feel you're at your best.
You go to the expert who you know can help you get exactly what you want.
You sit down, take a deep breath as you settle in,
and explain what you’re hoping to get out of the experience.
The action begins.
Progress is made.
Then you get to the messy middle.
This is not the pretty part of the process.
It’s big and wild and feels untamable.
But you’ve been through experiences like this before.
You know how overwhelmed, frustrated, and crazed it can make you feel.
You admit that it’s scary.
You also know that given time and the right actions,
you’ll get through this.
You know the end result will be worth it.
You realize you need some time to relax and de-stress.
You do what you have to in order to calm yourself down.
You remind yourself to trust the process.
You pamper yourself
and ask for help when you need it.
You might find yourself in weird or uncomfortable situations,
but you know that’s just how it has to be.
You make the most of it.
You take notice of all the progress you’ve made so far.
You know you’re getting closer to the end.
You just have to wait a little bit longer and then…
It took time.
It took patience.
It took help.
It took trust.
Sometimes it felt like it wasn’t going to end.
There were moments you thought
“What the hell have I done?”
But you’d always known deep down
you were doing the right thing.
And, just like always,
that wise voice inside of you was right.
Special thanks to Debbie Hocevar of Santo Salon and Spa for her help, encouragement, and my great haircut!